The "proper role" in my life is easy: I love wine! I enjoy one glass with dinner every day, and I enjoy visiting wineries and attending tasting events. I like to say "wine people are fine people." If I had to give up wine, my quality of life would be substantially reduced. If it cuts some time off my life, that's fine. The part I cut off is at the end, when everything hurts, you feel like crap, and you have no friends left. I'm fine with that trade-off.